Greg Partch wrote me, "Hi all,
I'm conducting an informal survey, in the hopes of inspiring your best and most inspired thinking, on the subject of non-clinical narcissism. There is Narcissism, as a diagnosable personality disorder, and then there is,say, Paris Hilton, whose narcissism is more of byproduct of the cultural vapidity of contemporary America than it is a pathology. So, here's the question:
What would you make of a person who says, with a straight face: "I'm my #1 priority".
What sort of person would you imagine earnestly thinks likes this? Are they young, old, rich, poor, smart, American?
Any and all thoughts on this subject are welcome."
I've never met anyone who thinks like this in the Youngstown area. I can't imagine any of them thinking they deserved anything but a nice little house and some dogs. A lot of them don't even take vacations.
I lived in Eugene Oregon and been there a bunch of times and no one said or did anything that implied, "I'm my #1 priority".
I've known a lot of republicans and they all think, "White people are the first priority", but that still doesn't imply "I'm my #1 priority".
The only place I've run into "I'm my #1 priority" people is in New York City, they were all rich kids who didn't care about anything because they didn't have to. I was shocked by some of the people, it was like nothing bad had ever happened to them, and they were completely convinced that they should be controlling their reality at all times.
But I don't think America is overall like that, that is some dumb topical shit the media sells to sell more advertisements. Americans like all the general populations of the world are clueless, but they don't assume "I'm my #1 priority".
My roommate (Bernice) gave me this sentence, "Narcissism has become a past time."
Here are two people I know from Youngstown:
MH is the president of the philosophy club, he has twitter, facebook and all such things. He goes to indie rock shows and twitters like five times a day. Which seems narcissistic, but when you meet him in person at a bar or on campus he doesn't announce himself as The President of The Philosophy Department, he doesn't force you to talk about him, he probably does volunteer work.
Another person is GT, she has like 1300 pics of herself getting drunk on her facebook. The site is pretty narcissistic, she has pics of her going to the bathroom with her pants pulled down and pics in her bikini. But when you meet her in person she talks calmly, she listens, she has good responses, and she is trying to graduate college with a teaching degree.
So I think it appears that Americans enjoy playing super star when they are bored and alone at their house on their computers. But when they leave the computer room they act like normal people again.